What if I told you that anxiety, sadness, and overwhelm aren’t signs that something is wrong with you, but signs that you’re deeply, divinely human?
Have you spent time resisting emotions. Thinking I felt “bad,” which meant I was bad. That something had gone wrong. That I was failing.
But here’s the truth …
Emotions are not problems to fix. They are God given guidance.
They are meant to move through you, not define you. They’re signals, chemicals designed by your Creator, that vibrate through your body to guide, shape, and teach you.
And learning to feel, really feel, is one of the most powerful things you can ever do for yourself.
God Designed Us to Feel
We’re not meant too numb or avoid our feelings. Emotions aren’t mistakes. They are messages, messages that you are a human who has feelings and has life experiences. Thankfully we are not robots that don’t have emotions or feelings. Do you think you should be like a robot? Cold and without feelings? When you don’t feel the sadness, pain, frustration …. those negative emotions we don’t appreciate the beautiful emotions life has to offer. Picture a robot who doesn’t feel good or bad. If you’re honest that isn’t appealing.
Each emotion whether joy, grief, fear, or hope is a vibration in your body, triggered by a thought. That’s it. And yet, that vibration is sacred. It has purpose. It has wisdom.
Even Jesus wept.
And because we are created in His image, we too were designed to feel, deeply, wholly, honestly.
Sensation vs. Emotion: What’s the Difference?
What is the difference between a sensation and an emotion? Are they different? How should we look at them?
Sensations start in the body and go to the brain. (Examples: tired, hungry, cold.) Your stomach rumbles which sends a response to your brain, I’m hungry. You’re outside on a winter day and your feet are cold, sending a message to your brain telling you that you are cold. You yawn and you think I’m so tired.
Emotions start with a sentence in the brain and are felt in the body. (Examples: fear, shame, hope, peace.) What is in that dark shadow, creating fear. I said or did this, feeling shame. I bought a lottery ticket there is a chance I can win, your start to feel hope. Reading scriptures bring me peace.
This means thoughts create emotions. Which also means: emotions are never random. They can be understood, unraveled, and most importantly processed.
When We Resist Emotions, They Get Louder
We live in a world that teaches us to escape discomfort at all costs. When we don’t know how to allow and process our emotions, we buffer:
We scroll.
We online shop.
We overeat.
We avoid.
We lash out or go silent.
And while none of those things make you a bad person, they do keep you stuck.
What you’re doing to avoid feeling is actually harder than just feeling the feeling. When we avoid our feelings by buffering that doesn’t fix those feelings. Those feelings lingers, we burry them until they show up unexpectedly or when we lease expect them.
Resisting creates what we call dirty pain the kind of pain that spirals, keeps us stuck, and confused.
But when you allow your emotion? That’s clean pain. And clean pain is where healing begins, we expand and grow, moving us through the pain.
How to Process an Emotion
Here’s a simple framework:
Allow it. Remind yourself it’s safe. You’re not in danger.
Name it. “I feel anxious.” “This is sadness.” Naming the feeling tames it.
Locate it. Where is it in your body? Tight chest? Heaviness in your stomach? Tingling in your arms?
Breathe into it. Relax. Be willing to let it be there.
Invite it closer. I know this sounds odd but the more you welcome it, the more it softens.
Let it move through you. When you are feeling it, picture it raising out of your body and handing it to the Savior.
Your Feelings Are Spiritual
This part may surprise you: when we open up to our feelings, we open up to God.
Allowing emotion is an act of surrender. It’s trusting that nothing has gone wrong. That God is still good. That you are still held.
Jesus felt pain. Grief. Betrayal. Loneliness. He didn’t run from the experience. He walked through it.
This is where growth happens. And it is holy. Negative emotion isn’t bad it’s a gift to feel.
The 50/50 Truth About Life
Here’s another truth when you’re living your best life, it’s not 100% happy and it’s not supposed to be.
It’s 50/50.
50% joy, peace, love, excitement.
50% frustration, sadness, fear, doubt.
This balance isn’t failure, it’s design.
When we make peace with that, we stop chasing perfection and start living with presence. Acknowledging and growing through the negative 50 and loving being thankful in the positive 50.
The 50/50 doesn’t go day by day it is a percentage over time. We have seasons when things are going well, plus seasons when day after day, week after week or even month after month that are a challenge.
Negative Emotions Are the Currency of Growth
Here’s a Truth:
The discomfort you’re avoiding is the doorway to the life you actually want.
The fear of showing up, the discomfort of change, the vulnerability of dreaming big it all requires feeling.
When you’re willing to feel any emotion, you become unstoppable.
Ready to Feel So You Can Heal? Let’s Do It Together
You don’t have to figure this out alone. The first step is curiosity, awareness that there is another way to feel your way through life.
The second step is to get help when you need it. If this is a new concept getting help from someone who knows and believes this way of living is key to progressing and moving forward.
A life coach is where you create a safe, sacred space to slow down, process what’s going on inside, and reconnect with the version of you God designed. Learning how to feel those feelings that will guide you through life and become the person you are destined to be. One full of life, growing, learning and becoming.
I’d love to help you feel your feelings, guide and encourage and empower you through life. Click here for a free consultation. Let’s walk through this together. You’ll be amazed by the transformation you create in you. A life that is full, accepting the good and the not so great times. Life was meant to be filled with challenges and growth. That can only happen when you embrace, love and accept all of you. The great and the not so great.
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