Have you ever wondered why, no matter how hard you try, life seems to circle back to the same problems? You set new goals, try new routines, even push yourself harder but deep down, the results don’t change. The truth is, most people are trying to solve their challenges in the wrong place.
Real, lasting transformation doesn’t begin with your to-do list or your circumstances. It begins with your thoughts, feelings, and the stories you tell yourself. This is the foundation of life coaching and the power of the Reality Creation Formula (RFC) a model that reveals exactly how your inner world shapes your outer results.
Once you understand it, you’ll finally know how to break free from old cycles and create the life you’ve been craving.
If you’ve been longing for real change, this post will give you the roadmap. And if you want support applying it to your own life, schedule a free coaching consultation with me today.
Step 1: External Facts
Everything starts with facts. We often think our stories are facts, so how do we know if something is a fact? They are neutral and provable. Things that could stand up in a court of law. They include other people’s words, the weather, or deadlines.
For example:
“It’s raining outside.”
“She said the words, ‘I don’t agree.’”
“The project deadline is Friday at 5pm.”
Facts themselves are not good or bad, they simply are. But what happens next is what determines your experience.
This is why causal life coaching starts with teaching you to separate the facts from the story. Once you do, you’ll see just how much power you actually have.
Step 2: Internal Story
When you encounter facts, your brain automatically creates a story about them based on what we can see, hear, touch, taste, or smell. This is your internal world — your thoughts and feelings.
Example:
Fact: It’s raining outside.
Story #1: “This is going to ruin my whole day.” → frustration.
Story #2: “This is perfect cozy weather for reading.” → contentment.
Same fact. Two completely different experiences.
Your thoughts create your feelings, and your feelings fuel everything you do next. When you start to notice your stories, you can decide whether they’re helping you or keeping you stuck.
This is the heart of coaching. Together, we’ll uncover the hidden stories that are running your life and rewrite them into ones that serve you.
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Step 3: External Behaviors
Your thoughts and feelings don’t stay inside. They spill out into the world as behaviors, what others can see.
These behaviors include:
The words you choose.
The tone of your voice.
Your body language, posture, and eye contact.
For example, if your story is “I’m not good at presentations,” you might speak quietly, fidget, and avoid eye contact. On the other hand, if your story is “I’ve prepared well for this,” your tone and posture will communicate confidence.
This is why coaching doesn’t just change how you feel on the inside, it transforms how others experience you on the outside. Book your coaching call here and start showing up the way you want to.
Step 4: Internal Reality
Here’s where the cycle completes. Your behaviors feed back into your internal reality, confirming the story you started with.
Example:
Story: “I’m not good at presentations.”
Behavior: Nervous tone, lack of eye contact.
Internal reality: “See? I knew I was awkward.”
The loop continues, unless you break it.
The incredible news you can interrupt this cycle at any point. By shifting either your thoughts or your feelings, it changes, your behavior, your reality, and ultimately, your results.
You can also start by choosing the result you want and then work backwards: What behaviors would create that result? What thoughts and feelings (your story) would fuel those behaviors? This way, you design your outcome from the inside out.
This is what causal coaching is all about: addressing the root cause instead of trying to patch up the symptoms.
Why This Model Solves Any Problem
Think about a problem you’re facing right now:
A strained relationship.
Stress at work.
Lack of confidence.
Always being busy but never feeling calm.
The RFC model shows you don’t need ten different solutions, you only need one: awareness of your story.
From there, you get to choose:
Do I want to shift my thoughts?
Or do I want to shift my feelings?
Either change will alter the outcome. And when you solve one problem at the root, you’ll find that many other problems untangle along the way.
This is why my clients say coaching feels like a weight lifted. If you’re ready to stop spinning in cycles and start creating results that last, let’s work together.
The Benefits of Life Coaching
Here’s what you can expect when you work with a life coach through this model:
Clarity: You’ll learn to separate facts from stories, freeing yourself from unnecessary drama.
Emotional freedom: No longer being ruled by guilt, anger, or fear.
Confidence: Building belief in yourself from the inside out.
Better relationships: Showing up calm, grounded, and connected.
Lasting transformation: Solving problems at the root so you don’t keep repeating them.
Coaching doesn’t mean someone else tells you how to live. It means being guided to uncover your own power, see what’s been hidden, and rewrite the story that’s shaping your life.
If you’ve ever thought, “I wish I could just get out of my own way,” coaching is for you. Click here to schedule a call.
Why Causal Coaching Lasts Longer
Changing habits or behaviors can feel easier in the short-term, but without addressing the story behind them, the results fade.
Causal coaching means slowing down, noticing your feelings, questioning your thoughts, and being willing to shift your inner world.
Instead of patching over one problem, you’ll transform the foundation and many problems dissolve on their own.
If this model resonates with you, it’s for a reason. You already know there’s more to life than reacting to circumstances, you just need the tools to take control of your inner world.
This is what I do every day with my clients. Together, we uncover the root stories running your life, shift them, and create the peace and confidence you’ve been looking for. If you’re ready to stop reacting and start creating, book your coaching consultation today.
The Reality Creation Formula is simple but profound:
External facts happen.
You create an internal story about them.
That story fuels your external behaviors.
Those behaviors reinforce your internal reality.
This cycle can keep you stuck or it can set you free. Life coaching gives you the awareness and support to break the loop and rewrite your story.
You don’t have to stay trapped in the same results. Change is possible. And it starts today. Schedule your first coaching call with me here.
