What if I told you that your deepest desires, yes, even the ones that seem wild, unreasonable, or “too much”, are actually the breadcrumbs to your most fulfilling life? What if you didn’t need to justify them, earn them, or shrink them to fit into someone else’s version of success? What if… you could want what you want just because you want to, and have fun along the way?
You’re Allowed to Want ... Really Want
Let’s start with a beautiful truth: You are allowed to want things simply because you want them. No justification needed. If it sparks curiosity or lights up your imagination, that’s reason enough.
Wanting is one of the most divine and human things about us.
Our desires are unique. They shift, evolve, sometimes showing up in ways we didn’t expect. They’re shaped by all kinds of things, our DNA, past experiences, identity, conditioning, socialization,even the whispers of God within us.
But here’s the magic: you get to choose which desires to nurture. You get to ask, “Is this desire empowering me or exhausting me?” “Is it rooted in love or fear?” And you get to choose again.
Where Do Desires Come From?
Our desires come from a variety of sources. Some are deeply sacred. Others? Not so much.
Let’s break it down:
God-given gifts – Your innate talents, your creative spirit, your personality quirks? The whispers from God. These often point you in a beautiful direction.
Conditioning and socialization – Family rules, school systems, religious culture, and social media often teach us what we’re supposed to want, like the job, the house, the body, the schedule.
Thoughts and beliefs – What you consistently think eventually becomes what you believe, and that shapes what you want.
Past experiences – Trauma, joy, failure, and success, all leave their mark on your “wanting” brain.
DNA and biology – Some of our preferences and tendencies are just baked into us.
Even though many of your desires have been shaped by outside forces, you are the one in charge of your choices. You are not stuck. You get to take the wheel and decide which desires get some attention and which ones don’t.
The Two Big Forces Behind Desire
Let’s get real about what’s fueling our desires. At the core, there are two main drivers:
Fear and Scarcity
Trust, Love, Abundance, and Fun
Fear-based desires sound like this:
“If I don’t do this, I’ll fall behind.”
“If I don’t succeed, I won’t be enough.”
These desires might push you into action, but it’s a heavy, pressure-filled grind. And pressure? Makes all hard things harder.
Now let’s flip the switch.
Abundant desires sound like this:
“This feels exciting.”
“This could be fun to try.”
“I’m drawn to this, and I don’t need to explain why.”
Action from this energy feels light. Playful. Creative. It opens doors you didn’t even know existed.
Can you feel the difference?
When you act from abundance, love, and curiosity, your desires become joyful instead of stressful. You move toward your goals with energy, instead of dragging yourself through mud.
Your Most Abundant Reason to Want Something
The most abundant, empowering reason to want something is: Just because you want to.
You don’t have to earn it. You don’t have to deserve it. You don’t have to wait for someone else to approve it.
We were designed to create, evolve, expand. It’s human nature. Desire is our invitation to become more of who we already are.
What About Purpose?
Desire might be even more powerful than purpose.
Purpose often comes with pressure. We start thinking we need to find it, earn it, or prove it. But what if desire is actually the roadmap to your purpose?
What if your purpose is simply to want, grow, and create from a place of love?
When you align your desires with trust and abundance, you begin to live on purpose. You contribute more. You feel fulfilled. You become magnetic. Why? Because you’re no longer chasing … you’re choosing. You’re not hustling to be enough, you already are.
Inviting the Child Back In
Remember when you were little and you wanted to be a ballerina or astronaut?
That was desire. That was joyful dreaming, pure creativity.
You can invite that back in. You can want just because it feels good. You can choose to believe:
I can have what I want.
I can be who I want.
I can grow into it, slowly and beautifully.
You don’t need to hustle to prove your worth, you get to play your way into those desires.
What Do You Believe About Your Desire?
Ask yourself:
What abundant beliefs do I want to build around desire?
What do I believe about my capacity to have, do, or become what I want?
Am I willing to drop the fear and pressure and choose fun instead?
You have unlimited potential. Your desires live within you. And they’re pointing you to your best life.
What Is Purpose, Really?
Purpose has a lot of pressure attached to it. We tend to think it’s a single job, cause, or contribution we must discover before we can feel fulfilled or do meaningful work in the world. But here’s the truth: purpose isn’t something you find under a rock or on a mountaintop, it’s something you live into, day by day.
So how do you know if you’re not living into your purpose?
You may feel bored. Uninspired. Chronically overwhelmed. A little resentful. Like no one’s helping you meet your needs. You might hear yourself say, “I’m just unfulfilled,” but not know what to do about it.
This is often a sign that you’re living from obligation rather than possibility. You’re stuck in the land of “should.”
The Should vs. Could Trap
Are you living from “should” or “could”?
“I should be more productive.”
“I should be further along.”
“I should already know what I want.”
“Should” is a toxic trap. It’s heavy. It’s loaded with guilt, and it leads to either burnout or passivity. You freeze, spin in indecision, or hustle for worthiness.
Now let’s try on “could” instead.
“I could try something new.”
“I could explore this idea that excites me.”
“I could become the kind of person I love being.”
“Could” opens the door to playfulness. It invites action without pressure. No guilt. No perfectionism. Just possibility.
You don’t have to do any of this. But if you want to? You totally could.
So, Where Does Desire Fit In?
Here’s where it gets fun: your desires are the breadcrumbs to your purpose.
Yes, even the small ones.
Yes, even the “silly” ones.
Yes, even the ones you’ve been secretly afraid to say out loud.
Desire is often how purpose gets your attention. It tugs gently on your sleeve and whispers, “Hey, this matters to you.” It might show up as a fascination, a curiosity, or an obsession you can’t shake. A whisper from God
Not because someone said it was noble or useful. Not because it checks a box on someone else’s checklist. But because it lights you up.
When your desires are rooted in love, curiosity, and trust, not fear and scarcity, they become fun. And when life feels fun again, you’re probably living on purpose without even realizing it.
Purpose Isn’t a Job Title
Purpose isn’t a single role, job, or label. It’s the way you want to show up in the world.
Maybe your desire sounds like:
“I want to be someone who is generous.”
“I want to be someone who creates beauty.”
“I want to be someone who is playful and free.”
Beautiful. Go be that person. Right where you are.
You don’t need to be famous, wealthy, or “ready.” You get to live your purpose right now, by aligning with the person you most love being.
What If You Don’t Know Your Purpose?
Good news: You don’t need to know it to live it.
Instead of trying to figure it out, try following what brings you joy.
Ask yourself:
What am I curious about?
What do I enjoy, and why?
What am I thinking about when I feel most alive?
Fulfillment doesn’t come from doing the “right” thing. It comes from thinking the kind of thoughts that bring joy, peace, and connection.
Play: The Secret Sauce to Purpose
Don’t underestimate the power of play. We often think purpose has to be serious, heavy, and world-changing. But what if the most powerful thing you can do is simply lighten up?
What if your purpose is discovered not through striving, but through play … having fun?
Are you open to more fun? More joy? More childlike curiosity?
Invite it in. Experiment. Get messy. Be willing to try things just because you could.
Just Because You Want To
You are allowed to want what you want.
Your desire is not selfish—it’s sacred.
Your joy is not optional—it’s essential.
Your purpose is not out there—it’s inside you.
You don’t need permission.
You don’t need to “figure it out.”
You don’t need to carry the weight of the world to be worthy of feeling fulfilled.
You just need to believe this:
You could. And that’s enough.
So go want it. Go try it. Go love it. Go live it.
Just because you want to.
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Want It, Choose It, Love the Journey
Desire doesn’t need to be logical. It doesn’t have to be serious. It doesn’t even have to make sense to anyone else.
But when it’s rooted in love, joy, and possibility, it becomes unstoppable.
So go ahead:
Want the cozy afternoon nap.
Want the career pivot.
Want the deeper connection.
Want the thing you haven’t dared to say out loud yet.
Just because you want to.
And remind yourself often:
This is going to be fun.
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